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Intent

Wednesday, 13 August 2008

Adults joke around and tease as a normal part of communication. Beernut, however, misses a lot of it because he is just so literal.

Beernut stubbed his toe on Tuesday morning on the way to breakfast. One of the staff said “hey, we could just cut off your toe and then it won’t hurt. In fact, we could cut the whole foot off and then you NEVER have to worry about stubbed toes.”

Beernut just stared at him and blinked a few times. As if he recognized that there was something he wasn’t quite understanding.

And then there was a flash of pink as Poppyseed shot past me.

“HEY! Stop teasing my brother!” she shouted. “It’s not nice to tease people. When people tease me it really hurts my feelings!”

“Cut it out, Poppyseed,” mumbled Beernut, “it’s ok.”

“NO, it is NOT ok. It is never OK to tease!” she repied.

Yes, Beernut needs to learn that teasing is often good-natured. But Poppyseed wasn’t wrong. Teasing more often leads to hurt feelings. And in this age of e-communication, tone of voice, facial expressions, and other non-verbal forms of communication are removed. Making it even harder to distinguish between good-natured teasing and hurtful teasing.

Poor Poppyseed was subjected to a sermon at lunch about the difference between teasing and sarcasm. But I think that the teacher would have been better served being the student and learning from the child.

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4 Comments leave one →
  1. Friday, 15 August 2008 10:56 am

    It’s so sweet that she came right to his rescue. He may not appreciate being “protected” by his younger sister, but it must make you happy to know that they stick up for each other.

  2. Monday, 18 August 2008 8:02 pm

    Intent is perhaps one of the more important things we can teach our children. I personally have a bit of an off sense of humor, and I realize that my kids sometimes don’t get it.

    On the other side of the coin, I try to teach them that if something was done without intent, it is often an accident and they have an even harder time understanding that.

    BTW, I have been reading your blog for a while now, but have never commented. I felt it was time to remedy that!

    You can head over to mind to learn about me! (hint hint)

  3. Monday, 18 August 2008 8:02 pm

    That is mine, not mind.

  4. Curtis Maybin permalink
    Friday, 1 January 2010 5:34 pm

    Great stuff on aspergers/autism looking forward to more information this is growing. I am promoting global awareness for aspergers/autism on my blog. http://curtishealthyliving.wordpress.com/

    Thanks
    Curtis Maybin

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