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Living with the Host Majority

Tuesday, 25 May 2010

Two experiences in the past three days remind me that we are so in the cultural/religious minority.

Seeing my hat, the barista greets me.

Barista: Hello Raa-bee?

{{Raa-bee?? Really?}}

FrumeSarah: It’s Rabbi.

Barista: Is that your name?

{{Come on…my name? Really??}}

FS: It’s my title.

**********************

While fixing my computer, the tech guy tries his hand at small-talk.

Tech Guy: So what is it that you guys do here.
FrumeSarah: It’s a synagogue.

{{{Silence}}}

FS: You know. Like a church. But for Jews.

********************

It just gets so tiresome. Having to explain. Guess this is why Beernut tells people that his parents force him to go to “Christian” school.

Which is why I am such an advocate for JewCamp. Providing an environment where our kids are in the majority, rather than in the minority, is a precious gift.

Forty-one days and counting…

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  1. Tuesday, 25 May 2010 9:23 pm

    My mom calls it Jew Church.

    It’s all good.

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:07 pm

      Oh my. Really?? Is she ready for this week???

  2. Tuesday, 25 May 2010 9:33 pm

    Yep – got asked by a friend “are you still really active at your church?” I just said yes, easier than explaining.

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:08 pm

      Yeah, I usually don’t bother correcting people. There are times that I just don’t feel like getting into it.

  3. Tuesday, 25 May 2010 9:46 pm

    “Raa-bee… Is that your name?” Priceless. And who goes into a synagogue and says, “What is it that you guys do here?” I agree – it gets tiresome!!

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:09 pm

      The computer tech guy who got a work order from his boss. That’s who.

      • Thursday, 27 May 2010 10:31 am

        I was being sarcastic… I knew it was the computer guy. The downside to blogging/e-mailing, etc. is that it can’t pick up inflection. 🙂

      • Frume Sarah permalink*
        Thursday, 27 May 2010 6:15 pm

        I was being sarcastic too 🙂

  4. Tuesday, 25 May 2010 9:47 pm

    A few years ago I was at Rite Aid looking for Hanukkah wrap but couldn’t find any so I asked someone working there where it was. He checked with his manager then came back and told me Hanukkah had been discontinued. I began explaining that Hanukkah was a holiday and was obviously NOT discontinued but then I just gave up.

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:09 pm

      I seem to recall you sharing that story. Discontinued…harumph!

  5. Tuesday, 25 May 2010 9:53 pm

    {{ahem}}
    How about commin’ over here and being part of the host majority?

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:15 pm

      Easier said than done. PC is not (yet) an ardent Zionist. He’s more like a beginning Zionist.

      One day… Bs”D

  6. Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:24 pm

    I have had some joyful discussions courtesy of the majority.

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Tuesday, 25 May 2010 10:27 pm

      I can only imagine…

  7. Wednesday, 26 May 2010 3:32 am

    An article was recently written in a local newspaper about our rabbi who marked 20 years leading our congregation. He spent the entire day with him and went on to write a piece that described us as a church and not a synagogue. Even his editor didn’t catch it! Now, when reporters from secular papers come in to talk to us, we make it a point to say that these words are not interchangeable! At least we can make sure it is on public record and in the papers correctly – even if we have to deal with things like this in our personal lives.

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Thursday, 27 May 2010 6:15 pm

      Wow. I mean…wow.

  8. JockBro permalink
    Wednesday, 26 May 2010 6:53 am

    Truth be told I always LOVED being in the minority. I relished opportunities to educate my friends. It made me feel like I was in on some great secret, a member of an elite club. I wonder as the girls grow up whether I (and/or they) will feel the same…

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Thursday, 27 May 2010 6:16 pm

      Interesting.

      It isn’t that I mind being in the minority. I am just regularly shocked as to the cultural ignorance.

  9. Wednesday, 26 May 2010 9:04 am

    Amen about JewCamp. I love the description that Jewish summer camp is like Hogwarts. It’s where we realize that there are lots of other people *just like us* and that is an awesome feeling.

    All kids should go. Seriously. 27 days til my oldest is a CAMPER!

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Thursday, 27 May 2010 6:17 pm

      It’s like Hogwarts. But with GaGa instead of quidditch 🙂

  10. clinicalamanda permalink
    Thursday, 27 May 2010 4:56 pm

    as a Jew in Utah – well, I hear you.

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Thursday, 27 May 2010 6:18 pm

      I can only imagine….

      thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave your thoughts 🙂

  11. Megan permalink
    Thursday, 27 May 2010 5:31 pm

    so excited to be going to camp with you guys again!! i can’t believe it’s so soon!

    • Frume Sarah permalink*
      Thursday, 27 May 2010 6:18 pm

      I know 🙂 Yay!!!

  12. Thursday, 27 May 2010 9:24 pm

    To bad there’s no JewCamp for adults… I’d be the first to sign up!

  13. Sunday, 30 May 2010 6:27 pm

    you handled yourself well in both situations. those moments can be, well– tiring i guess is the right word. my favorite experience with that? “so, what *do* you guys do for christmas?” *sigh* go jew-camp! 🙂

  14. Wednesday, 2 June 2010 12:31 pm

    I remember (from 40 years ago) how tiring it is to be in the minority. You have a choice though, one that our people didn’t have for 2000 years. Come home to Israel and you will be in the host majority.

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