I waited anxiously, knowing that pretty soon I would be called up to light a candle. That all eyes would be on me. The Bat Mitzvah’s best friend. Everyone knows that the Best Friend gets to light one of the candles during the requisite “Candle Lighting Ceremony.”
Except at the conclusion of the rhyming ditty, it wasn’t my name that was called. It was some other girl’s. And suddenly I realized that I was not my best friend’s best friend.
That devastating moment has most certainly affected the way in which I guide students in regard to the thank you section of the D’var Torah they will deliver towards the end of the Bar or Bat Mitzvah service.
Which brings me to #FollowFriday (sometimes shortened to #FF). Leaving aside the logistical issue of Friday being the busiest day of my entire week, I rarely participate in #FF unless it is to thank others for listing me as one of the people to follow. Because no matter who I include, there are so many who are excluded.
Like with the candle ceremony…