The First Day
Top Ten Best Things About Today:
10. Discovering that exterior shots of this hotel were used for the fictional St. Gregory in the 80’s drama, Hotel.
9. Putting faces together with names I’ve seen on our rabbinic listservs.
8. People-watching while enjoying a quick cup of coffee and a croissant.
7. Meeting some bloggie friends IRL such as JazzRabbi.
6. Lunch in Chinatown. The concierge recommended a place that was “a short walk” from the hotel. It would have been lovely for her to mention the HUGE hills. The “short walk” was 20 minutes there and about 30 minutes back. In her defense, however, the food was TOTALLY worth it!
5. The delicious appetizers at tonight’s reception. Loved that everything was dairy and pareve. Didn’t have to wonder what was in the egg rolls.
4. Having my own room.
3. Studying about the Talmudic perspectives regarding dreams with Dr. Dvora Weisberg. The two fastest hours. Did not want it to end.
2. Tweeting the Opening Session. New Visions for Our Jewish Communities with Joe Green, Founder of Facebook’s Causes, and Daniel Sokatch, CEO of the New Israel Fund. Moderated by Rabbi Stephen Pearce of Congregation Emanu-El of San Francisco.
and the Number One best part of today…
Packed Bags

Bags are packed.
Instructions for PC are printed AND emailed to his Blackberry.
Alarm is set for some un-Godly hour.
Heading to San Francisco for the 121st Annual Convention of the Central Conference of American Rabbis in a few hours.
Learning to Let Go
There comes a time, I suppose, in the development of every mother when she wonders if she is holding back her child…
Earlier this week, Beernut discovered that he could receive FM stations on his MP3 player. Truth-be-told, when he excitedly shared this information, I assumed he’d be listening to NPR. A reasonable assumption given that as his age I was listening to the likes of Michael Jackson (the one who was born white.), Ira Fistell, “Religion on the Line” with Carole Hemingway, and the Ken and Bob Company (remember EGBOK?). Yes, I was a committed KABC talk radio junkie as an elementary school student.
No, Beernut has discovered 97.1 AMP Radio — a station geared for teens and yound adults. Not a station meant for tweens. And yet I know that his peers are listening to this “music.” So much sets Beernut apart from his peer group (thank you, Asperger’s) and I don’t want to my own misgivings to make that gap any wider.
Against my better judgement, I put on the station.
It was that third song that finally got to me.
Call Me Mr. Flintstone,
I Can Make Your Bed Rock (oooh..)
FrumeSarah: “Beernut, I really don’t think that this music is appropriate?”
Beernut: “Why not?”
FS: “Well, it has some subjects that just aren’t appropriate for someone your age.”
B: “What sort of subjects?”
FS: “Subjects like sex. For example.”
B: “Oh Mom.”
Several moments pass…
FS: “Hey Beernut, do you even know what sex it?”
B: (eyes rolling) “Of course. It’s about gender. As in ‘what sex are you.”, right?”
That’s right, Beernut.
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So, dear readers, what say you? Leaving aside the fact that most of this “music” is pure dreck, what is the mom of a tween to do?
Celebrate Good Times!
Happy National Grammar Day!
Today might be a good day for my annual reading of Strunk and White. Or for some high-fiber food (good for the colon). Or to check out what Grammar Girl has cooked up for us!
May your participles never dangle and may the word “myself” only be used when viewing one’s reflection in a mirror…or for intensity.
Not-so-Extreme Makeover
I need a change.
It is not uncommon for people who have gone through a stressful situation to feel the need for a change. Like a serious illness. Or a death.
My original thought was to cut my hair. But my stylist advised against such a drastic change while I am still grieving. And rightly so.
Instead, I’ve done a little redecorating over here at Frume Sarah’s World.
What do you think??
The Sincerest Form
Sometimes you see another idea and say
Now why didn’t I think of that?
Which is preceisely what I said when I saw this over at Ima’s place.
Besides the obvious (e.g. Shabbat services), most folks really don’t know what rabbis actually do. So this infrequent column will shed some light on the multi-faceted work to which I was called.
האלה
In the middle of the day, I was asked about this word. So off I went, traipsing through BDB, Harper’s Bible Dictionary, and various other reference books. Emerging some time later with the answer.
וְשָׁאוּל וְאִישׁ-יִשְׂרָאֵל נֶאֶסְפוּ, וַיַּחֲנוּ בְּעֵמֶק הָאֵלָה; וַיַּעַרְכוּ מִלְחָמָה, לִקְרַאת פְּלִשְׁתִּים
And Saul and the men of Israel were gathered together, and pitched in the vale of Elah, and set the battle in array against the Philistines.
I Samuel 17:2. The location of well-known face-off between David and Goliath.
Terebinth. Sound familiar?? As in “the terebinths of Mamre” (Gen. 18:). Bet you wondered what a terebinth was when you read it last November on Shabbat Vayera.
Now I know. And so do you.
Why I Volunteer
At the beginning of the 2008-2009 academic year, I mistakenly asked someone on our PTO Board if the Box Top committee needed any worker bees. My inquiry was met with an immediate, and unanimous, appointment to the position of Box Top Mom.
It is a volunteer position that permits me to be involved in the kids’ school on my time. Which is particularly important given my crazy schedule. General Mills has two collections a year, requiring me to sort, bag, and count all the box tops. Thousands upon thousands of Box Tops. And then mailing them to a P.O. Box in Minnesota.
Families are reminded that only General Box Tops are accepted.

Not Campbell’s Labels for Education.
And not Betty Crocker Catalog points.

Especially since that program was retired in 2006.
They are also asked to check the expiration date.

My personal favourite. [Check out that expiration date.]

A few well-meaning folks have concluded that the effort/benefit ratio is out-of-whack and that my time would be better spent writing a check to the PTO and moving on.
But there are lessons that cannot be quantified…
By volunteering at my children’s school, they learn that they are a priority. Yes, I tell them that I love them and that they are important to me. But actions can speak as loud as words. Especially to our kids. The Frummettes think it’s really cool that the Box Top Mom is their mom.
By volunteering, I am able to make an ongoing contribution to our school. Showing the Frummettes, I hope, that each one of us has a role to play in the success of our community.
And…
By volunteering, I have opportunity to be a volunteer. That is to say, as a Rabbi, I work with a lot of volunteers. The experience of being a volunteer provides a good perspective. The frustrations. The busy work. The annoyances. The successes.
And so I take pleasure and pride in being the Box Top Mom.
[The Box Top Mom who is now going to sleep because today was submission day and I’m zonked.]
Best Laid Plans
Longtime readers may recall that we started an annual Purim picture tradition some years ago. The word “annual” is probably not the right word. Perhaps it should just be modified. “Sporadically-annual?”
We were doing just fine until last year. Last year was radically affected by meningitis and so a lot of things fell victim to the lingering effects. Felt a little guilty, but figured the kids could work it out in therapy.
This year, given the past eight weeks have been filled with illness, death, and mourning, I was determined to make Purim joyous. Even if we had to fake it!
We ate our way through this past week, thanks to my efforts in the kitchen. Kids loved their costumes and had fun delivering shalach manos to family and religious school teachers. And by the time last night rolled around, we definitely ready to celebrate.
The picture plan? Stop by Kiddie Kandids on the way home from the annual Purim Carnival. The kids would already be in their costumes and we had to pass right by the mall on our way home. Perfect. Fortunately I thought to call ahead.
Hm…that’s strange. The number I had jotted down is no longer in service. A quick call to “Information” left me confused as they had no listing for Kiddie Kandids.
Blame it on the bank. Really. Seems that Kiddie Kandids abruptly lost its funding and went belly-up last month.
Plans thwarted, Plan B was implemented. Out to the garden for this year’s picture:
Chag Purim Sameach from the Frummies!
Legacy
Poppyseed’s Bubbe called this morning.
Is Poppyseed available for some baking? I read your blog and want to make certain that my hamantaschen get passed on to future generations.
It so happened that Poppyseed had an opening in her afternoon schedule. When I mentioned to Poppyseed at pick-up that she had a baking date with Bubbe, she squealed with delight.
Bubbe and I are gardening buddies and cooking buddies. Those are things we like to do and we like to do them together.
Bubbe, it isn’t the recipe that will be your legacy. It will be constant presence and guidance and love that you share with Poppyseed that will be your legacy.
I am reminded of another young girl who loved to spend time with her grandmother…
Personal Expectations
I had a plan. I was planning to bake last night. I have a lot of hamantaschen to bake, am a wee bit behind schedule, and am feeling the pressure with Purim just days from now. But my class on Pirkei Avot ran a little over (we were having a great discussion) and by the time I got back to Beit Frummie, I was plumb tuckered out. Baking deferred.
As I climbed into bed, all I kept thinking was:
Now I’ll never be qualified to be an Eishet Chayil.
You see, the candle of an Eshet Chayil burns on into the night. Me? I couldn’t manage much of anything after a day that included meetings, a funeral and meal of condolence, and teaching.
{{sigh…}}
Proverbs 31:10-31 has gotten a bad rap since the fabrente feminists decided that there was something negative about praising a woman for abilities and characteristics that have been highly valued by our people. [I highly recommend a contemporary look at this passage by Hillel’s Joseph Meyerhoff Center for Jewish Learning and the Jewish Women’s Archive.] So much value was placed on them that it has become custom for husbands to sing — yes, sing!— this Proverbial selection to their wives at ths Shabbos table each week. Who wouldn’t enjoy being serenaded??
Eishet Chayil
A woman of valor, who can find? She is more precious than fine pearls.
Her husband trust in her, and so he lacks for nothing;
She does him good, never harm, all the days of her life.
Shee looks for wool and flax, and sets her hand to them with a will.
She is like a merchant fleet, bringing her food from afar.
She rises while it is still night, and provide provisions for her household, the daily fare of her maids.
She sets her mind on an estate and acquires it;
She plants a vineyard by her own labours.
She girds herself with strength, and performs her tasks with vigour.
She perceives that her labour is rewarding; her candle burns on into the night.
She sets her hand to the disatt; her fingers work the spindle.
She reaches out to those in need, and extends her hands to the poor.
She is not worried for her household because of the snow, for her whole household is dressed in crimson.
She makes covers for herself;Her clothing is linen and purple.
Her husband is prominent in the gates, as he sits among the elders of the land.
She makes cloth and sells it, and offers a girdle to the merchant.
She is clothed in strength and dignity, and she faces the future cheerfully.
She speaks with wisdom; the law of kindness is on her lips.
She oversees the activities of her household
and never eats the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and bless her; her husband sings her praises.
Many daughters have done valiantly, but you exceed them all.
Grace is deceptive, beauty is illusory;
it is for her awe in the Eternal that a woman is to be praised.
Extol her for the fruit of her hand,and let her works praise her in the gates.
OK — so there are a few other things that might disqualify me.
But I really do use this as my model. This is who I want to become. I want to be a woman whose virtues are praiseworthy. Whose children praise her. And forget that she ever decried:
Look…I followed the recipe. I don’t know why the dough is so sticky. Mommy just isn’t very good at this kind of stuff.
So for all the other reluctant balebustas out there, here is Frume Sarah’s annotated version of the
Working Mom’s Hamentashen:
| Prep Time | Cook Time | Ready Time |
|---|---|---|
| 10 min | 15 min | 30 min |
Don’t know how they came up with the timing. From start to finish, including kitchen clean-up, plan about 90 minutes.
- Ingrediants
- 1 (18.25 ounce) package moist yellow cake mix
- 1 cup all-purpose flour
- 2 eggs
- 2 tablespoons water
- 1 cup Solo cake and pastry filling (any flavour), chocolate spread, Nutella, etc.
Directions
- Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease cookie sheets.
- In a large bowl, mix together the cake mix and flour. Stir in the eggs and water to form a stiff dough.
- On a lightly floured surface, roll the dough out to 1/8 inch thickness. Cut into 3 inch round circles and place 2 inches apart onto the prepared cookie sheets.
- Place a teaspoon of filling into the center of each cookie and pinch the sides to form three corners. Moisten with water if necessary.
- Bake for 6 to 8 minutes in the preheated oven, or until lightly browned. Allow cookies to cool for 1 minute on the cookie sheets before removing to wire racks to cool completely.
I used a cooking spray to grease the pans. I grease them all at the same time so that I don’t have to stop what I’m doing after I fill a tray.

“Stiff dough” is not an accurate description. At least, I couldn’t quite get it to what I would describe as “stiff dough.” It is more reminiscent of moist sand. Do NOT add additional water; the dough will become rather unruly.
1/8 inch thickness? 3 inch round circles? 2 inches apart? Feh! Roll it until it feels right. Use a flour-rimmed drinking glass to cut the circles. And don’t put them too close together. And be generous with the flour for the rolling pin. Helps combat the sticky tendency of this dough. Using a drinking glass yields about 5 dozen cookies.
I’m not from the pinchers. I’m from the folders. I like to fold the dough to make little triangular pockets. Some use water; others recommend an egg wash. I use neither.
Normally, I like my cookies on the “well-done” side. The success of a the hamantaschen baker is to find that find balance between undercooked and overcooked. Every oven is different. Mine are perfect in 6 1/2 minutes.
For extra points, allow your kids to eat them for breakfast in the days leading up to Purim. Makes for warm, fuzzy feelings.















